The dissertation is devoted to the analysis of the problem of love and the possibility of its actualization in being of modern human, which was considered in the plane of gender partnership and existential dimensions. It is noted that love as an existential of human life today is more often considered in a romantic sense, while the potential of love personifies the path to unity, consensus, humanity, humanism, peaceful coexistence and co-creation with the Other both in the family, in society and between societies.
In order to comprehensively and systematically develop the problem, a multi-methodological approach was used. The hermeneutical and comparative approaches helped to clarify the specificity and consistency in the understanding of love in the history of Western philosophy and psychoanalysis, to highlight the main and important in its multifaceted manifestations. The approaches of humanistic psychoanalysis, personalism, metaanthropology and androgy-analysis fruitfully complemented each other, forming a single scientific and theoretical basis in understanding the subject of research and revealing the main concepts associated with it more deeply. It is proved that love is the result of conscious actualization – personal aspiration, direction and efforts, and therefore is not a spontaneous phenomenon. In the coordinates of humanistic psychoanalysis, love acts as an ability that is not only possible, but also necessary to be realized in human life. The understanding of the will to love in the stream of metaanthropology has been clarified and supplemented, which in combination with humanistic psychoanalysis opens the way to worldview work in which a person masters love as an ability, skill, potential that he reveals in himself every day, an art that he learns and comprehends. The personalistic approach in combination with androgyny-analysis helps to identify the criteria for the authenticity of love, the basis of which is the personality as the spiritual and mental integrity of a person. Thus, it is proven that true love is possible where there is an interpersonal plane and interaction, there is a dynamic of moral-creative and dialogical growth, existential compatibility, mutual development in the field of sincerity and beauty of communication, action and attitude.
Analysis of the phenomenon of love in Western philosophical thought helps to understand such aspects of love as eros and caritas, which relate to both the personal-sublime foundations of love and its merciful, compassionate and empathetic manifestations. It is revealed that eros as the core and essence of love is impossible without caritas, which cleanses eros from narcissism and selfishness, confirming the authenticity of love in the light of morality, responsibility and forgiveness. Psychoanalytic explorations of the issues of love draw our attention to the need to distinguish true love from neurotic demands, false erotic orientations, and childhood imprints of libido that cause intense emotional states during love, but do not develop into love and often cause destructive manifestations of self-pity. Thus, the opposite of love is sado-masochistic symbiosis, in which, due to the dominance of one person over another, there is no dialogue in the interpersonal plane, in which eros and co-creative possibilities are actualized. The role of the archetype in love and falling in love has been clarified. It has been revealed that love is based not only on psychological, but also on existential compatibility, which is not only imprinted on the subconscious level of cultural archetypes, but is the result of actualization - a conscious impulse of a person to self-improvement and the ability to love.
It is realized that love is a potentiality that gradually unfolds in human existence according to the evolution of his worldview, personal development and spiritual maturity. The basis of the study is a metaanthropological approach, which provides a core of novelty, putting forward criteria for the evolution of love in human existence. Existential dimensions in the study are represented by metaanthropological concepts of ordinary, boundary and meta-boundary being, which are developed sequentially in connection with the dominant will of a person as his or her internal direction. It is proven that in ordinary human being love remains at the level of a spontaneous phenomenon, where sympathy, which can turn into love, and psychological compatibility, which is strengthened by a common will to self-preservation and procreation, come to the fore. That is why in ordinary being love is identified with marital and family relations.
